Punitive Responses to Behaviour;
What rule has been broken?
Who is to blame?
What's the punishment going to be?
Restorative Responses to Behaviour;
What happened?
Who has been affected? How?
What needs to be done to put things right?
Some students are not use to working with, the might be experienced in either 'to' or 'for' and might have difficulty thinking for themselves or having someone ask for their ideas. These students need to be scaffolded through the process and taught the skills.
Ideas I can use;
TUMS - Touch, Use student's name, Make eye contact, Smile
2x10 - 2 minutes of time for 10 days interacting positively with the student
Be Firm, Be Fair, Be Brief, Be Gone
Ask vs Tell
Use open ended questions - What? Who? How? When and Where (not Why?)
Be curious
Let them explain and do all the work
eg. Tell me what just happened.
What do we need to have a conversation about?
Observe to Learn:
Tell the story
Explore the harm
Repair the harm
Reach an agreement
Plan the follow-up